Dealing with Hurt Feelings When They Have No Clue

Episode 17

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Today, we're diving into a topic that’s all too familiar for many of us: what to do when your feelings are hurt by someone who doesn’t even know it.

In this episode, I open up about a personal experience that’s been weighing on me. I've been training hard for a triathlon, but a series of illnesses have thrown me off track. It’s frustrating, and on top of that, my feelings got hurt. I’ll walk you through my journey of dealing with these emotions, the inner narrative that was building up, and the strategies I’m using to address the situation. Whether you’re dealing with hurt feelings from a partner, friend, or family member, I’ve got some tips that might help you too.

0:28: I’m experiencing hurt feelings and the other person is unaware
1:18: Background story: How my triathlon training is going. **Spoiler: it’s not going great
4:44: I’ve been feeling frustrated and there’s been an emotional toll of dealing with an interference of my training
7:15: Let’s talk about the feelings of disappointment and the irony of it all
9:36: Here’s the deal: this is where my feelings were hurt
10:31: Now let’s get into it…Where does that feeling come from; that feeling that others should understand our emotional state without being explicitly told. Let’s discuss the impact on relationships and unmet expectations
13:05: Time to unpack the hurt feelings and explore the internal narrative and hurt feelings
20:14: Strategies for handling hurt feelings: two possible routes to take
25:18: I invite you to share your thoughts and advice on what route you think I should take